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When a new client comes to see me, there’s a good chance I am going to recommend most, if not all, of these “things” to do in order to help facilitate their healing. If you are interested in getting a jump start on treatment or furthering your progress in therapy, then this list is for you.

Exercise
I dedicated a whole blog post on this in the past. It’s a must do for people suffering from anxiety and depression. Exercise is a natural anti-depressant. Getting in touch with your body is an important aspect of holistic treatment. What kind of exercise do you enjoy doing?

Meditate
10 minutes a day, once a day is a perfect prescription for meditation. There are apps you can download or videos you can watch on YouTube. Simply search “10 minute guided meditation” and some great videos come up. Sit in a quiet place in your house, with both feet on the floor or sitting on the floor, close your eyes and follow the words and music. What type of meditation practice are you going to put into place?

Connect with your inner child
This is another topic I previously dedicated a blog post to. Inner child work helps deal with past traumas. Making that connection and going back to heal is a sure fire way to accelerate treatment. Do you have something you loved doing as a child? Why not do it today and see what type of connection you have with your inner child.

Read a self-help book
Reading is one of my favorite hobbies and if my clients are willing to read, I am willing to make a recommendation. Here is a list of some of my favorites:

Healing the Shame That Binds You
by John Bradshaw

The Feeling Good Handbook
by David Burns

The Dance of Anger
by Harriet Lerner

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyways
by Susan Jeffers

Take a personal development course
My favorite personal development course is
The Living Course. It’s a 30 hour intensive weekend workshop where you will identify patterns in your life and learn ways to become empowered to change them. It’s both group process and experiential in format. It’s has been a life changing experience for myself and some of my clients.

Make a list of your unhealthy thinking patterns
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is the treatment of choice for depression and anxiety, therefore clients are asked to keep a list of their thoughts so we can apply CBT techniques to change them. Changing thoughts leads to behavioral changes, which can result in an improvement in mood and functioning.

Make a commitment to therapy
If you need it, going to therapy on a regular basis and making a commitment to yourself and your therapist is paramount. Therapy is proven to help people better manage their emotions and make changes in their lives. When people don’t commit to therapy, it can show a lack of commitment to themselves, which might be the very thing driving their problems. What is your commitment to yourself and your therapist?

Take care of yourself
Speaking of lack of commitment to the self, one of my main recommendations is to engage in self-care. Most of what I have listed thus far is included in this; however there is a change in thought process that needs to occur where a person begins to ask themselves “how can I take care of myself today?”. Good self-care is another way to improve overall well-being. What is your favorite way to take care of yourself? Getting a massage? Reading a good book? Connecting with old friends for a night out?

Take responsibility for your life
You ended up where you are at in your life as a result of a series of choices you made. The choices may not have been easy and they may have not seemed like choices; but every day and every step, you make choices in your life. You decide who to marry. You decide what job to have. You decide what to do with your free time. And those discussions have shaped your life to where you are at today. And guess what? You can learn to make better decisions in order to have more desirable outcomes in your life when you get the understanding that you are in control of your life.

Reward yourself
Congratulate yourself for taking the step to come to therapy. Congratulate yourself for buying that self-help book. Pat yourself on the back when you complete your therapy homework. Pat yourself on the back when you make a major breakthrough in therapy and need the box of tissues.

Interested in putting these into practice with therapy? Call me today at 954-258-8845 for a free 15 minute consultation or visit my website for more information about my services.

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Amanda Patterson, LMHC, CAP decided to become a therapist while attending Nova Southeastern University. She saw the need to help people achieve the life they wanted to live, while creating a life of her own. She completed her master’s in Mental Health Counseling and started a career in the juvenile justice arena. Since then, she has started a private practice in Pembroke Pines Florida, specializing in depression, anxiety relationship issues, and substance abuse. Amanda is a believer in holistic treatment and she practices veganism, meditation and yoga in her life. Find out more about her practice here. For a free 15-minute consultation, call or text Amanda at 954-258-8845 or email her at amanda@amandapattersonlmhc.com.

This upcoming weekend, I have a trip to Disney World planned. Disney is one of those places where it’s perfectly acceptable and normal for adults to be kids.  What if the rest of the world was like that?

Sometimes, people forget what it’s like to be little.  Inside of each of us lives the innocent and adventurous child we once were.  When you dig deep down inside, you are able to fully embrace that part of your life.   Then you can let your inner child out to play. 

What if you could take your inner child to work every day? How would you show up differently? Would you listen to Disney music all day and celebrate small successes with a piece of chocolate? I bet employee relationships would improve because when people relate to each other on the level of the inner child, it is without judgment, resentment or anger. It’s out of pure love, enjoyment and fun.

What if you could bring that carefree attitude into your relationships? What if your main goal was to engage and interact with other people that would get your inner child excited? It might look like board games after dinner or coloring with markers.  It might be telling a joke when the tension has gotten too high during a discussion. It might include eating ice cream every night of the weekend!

How easy it is to forget the connection with your inner child.  So as a reminder, take time for yourself today to connect with your inner child, the innocent part of you, who is dying to go to Disney and sing all of the songs from their favorite movies.

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Amanda Patterson, LMHC, CAP decided to become a therapist while attending Nova Southeastern University. She saw the need to help people achieve the life they wanted to live, while creating a life of her own. She completed her master’s in Mental Health Counseling and started a career in the juvenile justice arena. Since then, she has started a private practice in Pembroke Pines Florida, specializing in depression, anxiety relationship issues, and substance abuse. Amanda is a believer in holistic treatment and she practices veganism, meditation and yoga in her life. Find out more about her practice here. For a free 15-minute consultation, call or text Amanda at 954-258-8845 or email her at amanda@amandapattersonlmhc.com.

I’ve decided to follow-up my last blog with a review of a clinical supervision meeting I held where the topic was inner child work.

As a clinical supervisor, I like to present things in a creative and experiential way. To present this topic, I asked the therapists to buy a coloring book of their choice and bring it to supervision. I can imagine they were thinking “What is she making us do?”.

I opened up supervision by talking about the inner child and how to incorporate it into therapy. Then came the fun part. The instructions to the team were to color a page from their book with their non-dominant hand. They were told the goal was to get in touch with their inner child. The Disney music started and they were off!

Everyone was then asked to process why they picked the specific coloring book and how they connected to their inner child. One of the common themes presented was perfectionism. Someone presented a near perfect drawing. She was able to gain awareness into how her perfectionism can get in the way of the therapeutic relationship with her clients.

By the end of the session, each therapist was able to reflect on how to present inner child work to their group, as well as how they can use empathy with their clients since some of them had a difficult time with this activity.

As a supervisor, this was one of the most profound sessions I conducted. It taught me to be mindful of my experiences and to continue to do activities to gain self-awareness. As a supervisor, it encouraged me to continue to present new and unique ideas and to support professional and personal growth in supervision.

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Amanda Patterson, LMHC, CAP decided to become a therapist while attending Nova Southeastern University. She saw the need to help people achieve the life they wanted to live, while creating a life of her own. She completed her master’s in Mental Health Counseling and started a career in the juvenile justice arena. Since then, she has started a private practice in Pembroke Pines Florida, specializing in depression, anxiety relationship issues, and substance abuse. Amanda is a believer in holistic treatment and she practices veganism, meditation and yoga in her life. Find out more about her practice here. For a free 15-minute consultation, call or text Amanda at 954-258-8845 or email her at amanda@amandapattersonlmhc.com.