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Early today I was talking to a friend about tv shows and he was trying to convince me to start watching some new series. This year alone I caught up on Game of Thrones, Walking Dead and Scandal. I gently shared that the only thing I want to watch over the next several weeks is Christmas movies! That statement reminded me how close the holiday season is and I decided to write a post about the holidays to kick-off the season. Below are my recommendations on how to make the best out of the upcoming holiday season.

1. Spend time with family and friends
Many people who suffer from depression often isolate. This is a common symptom of depression and can be a part of the never ending cycle of depression. You don’t feel like being around people so you withdraw. You withdraw and feel isolated and alone. You feel isolated and alone and you withdraw. The pattern can go on and on until you do something different. Get out there and spend time with people who support you. Most people will spend time with their family on the actual holidays, but you can increase the time you spend with them doing others things. How do you plan on spending time with your friends and family during the holiday season?

2. Participate in holiday themed activities
There are a plethora of fun-filled activities to engage in during the holiday season. Why not plan a holiday gift exchange with your co-workers or circle of friends? Decorate your house and show off your Christmas cheer. Attend a movie in the park at this showing your favorite movie. A couple years ago, my sister and I watched Elf while sitting on a blanket in Downtown Fort Lauderdale and it was loads of fun. There are festivals, ice skating stands, Christmas parties, Menorah lights and Nutcracker plays to go to and that just scratches the surface for Christmas and Hanukah themed activities. What activity are you looking forward to doing this year?

3. Connect with people in creative ways
One of my favorite things about the month of December is receiving holiday cards. It’s a lot of fun to see people getting really creative with their cards. People dress-up in their funniest or most stylish outfits and take amazing pictures. Also, you can make it a point to schedule a trip to see some family members you haven’t seen in a couple of months. You can send gratuity cards for Thanksgiving as a way to let people know how much you appreciate them. What creative way do you plan on connecting to others?

4. Set boundaries, when needed
As previously outlined, there are activities galore for you to engage in during the holiday season. It’s important for you to connect with others and have fun while doing it; however it is equally important to set your boundaries. If you have two parties in one weekend and your parents want to take you to dinner, asses your priorities and act accordingly. You don’t have to make it to every Christmas dinner, and Hanukah dinner and New Year’s Eve party. You can connect with your family members without buying $100’s of dollars of gifts. Set a budget for your holiday spending and stick to it. What boundaries will you set for the upcoming weeks?

5. Live in the moment
The magic of holidays is about appreciating all that is afforded to you and the spirit of how it comes together. Let yourself enjoy yet another viewing of Home Alone. Let yourself enjoy building a snowman or going skiing. Take time throughout the holidays to really take in your life. Laugh! Sing! Party! Decorate! Live in the moment. What are you most looking forward to this year?

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Amanda Patterson, LMHC, CAP decided to become a therapist while attending Nova Southeastern University. She saw the need to help people achieve the life they wanted to live, while creating a life of her own. She completed her master’s in Mental Health Counseling and started a career in the juvenile justice arena. Since then, she has started a private practice in Pembroke Pines Florida, specializing in depression, anxiety relationship issues, and substance abuse. Amanda is a believer in holistic treatment and she practices veganism, meditation and yoga in her life. Find out more about her practice here. For a free 15-minute consultation, call or text Amanda at 954-258-8845 or email her at amanda@amandapattersonlmhc.com.

The beginning of the school year is upon us and those in the sorority life circle know that means one thing: Recruitment. Recruitment is like Black Friday from the rest of the world. It’s the time when sororities go into “the black” and have met their numbers for the year. New members trample over each other to make it to their new home. And in the end, just like with the holidays, it is all worth it when you step back and look at the smiles on everyone’s faces on bid day.

So you’ve come across this blog. Are you a new student interested in joining a sorority? Are you already in a sorority and need a push to recommit at 100%? Are you an alumna of a sorority looking for confirmation that yes indeed being in a sorority and still committed even though you graduated is still a good idea? Are you a parent worried about your daughter starting college and possibly joining a sorority? Are you a curious bystander interested in learning more about greek life and/or mental health? Then this blog is for you!

Being in a sorority is good for a woman’s mental health and here are four ways that it helps improve emotional wellbeing.

Teaches you to take care of yourself
Most sororities have a set of values or pillars that they work off of. Delta Phi Epsilon has what they call the 5 S’s, as a part of their Personal Development Program. One of the S’s is self. Each year, women are encouraged to do things to nurture themselves. These things can include developing a workout plan, committing to going to therapy establishing long-term and short-term goal, running a marathon or any other activity geared at developing a deep sense of self and personal accomplishment.

What is does is teach women at a young age that they are important. That even though they need to get good grades, give back to the sorority, be a member of their family and probably have a boyfriend, they need to incorporate me time into their routine. Women can lose sight of their personhood, especially when more responsibilities are placed on them. A valuable skill being taught in sororities is how to make taking care of yourself a priority.

Need some ideas on how to take care of yourself: create vision boards for your life, join a gym or find a therapist to help you work on what’s holding you back from fully embracing and developing your sense of self.

Teaches you to give back
Each year, across college campuses, sororities and fraternities alike plan and execute philanthropy events to raise funds and awareness for a variety of issues. Zeta Tau Alpha raises money and holds events every October for breast cancer awareness month. On a local level, sorority women host flag football games, male beauty contests, soccer tournaments, fashion shows, benefit concerts and more to support their philanthropy. Women spend their time planning the events and securing funds to meet their goals. And what does this do for women? It teaches them to give back to their community. It teaches them to think about the needs of others who are less fortunate and how their contributions can impact them. It teaches them to become civically engaged and plugged into what is going on in the country and world, especially when it comes to disease, illness and special needs populations. Philanthropy events are fun and it helps women to be connected to an organization and be willing to give money and time and build relationships with people.

Teaches you to see the future
Sororities have a mantra: Not for four years, but a lifetime. When you join a sorority, it is not just about the here and now. It is about making a lifelong commitment to your sorority, to the university, to the philanthropy and to your sisters. It’s about knowing that there will be something out there for you when you graduate from college. It’s about being able to connect with other alumnae if you happen to move to another city. It’s about being a bridesmaid in your sister’s wedding or having them in yours. It teaches women to think about what they want their future to look like and what skills and tools does the sorority have to help them reach it.

Teaches you to see how we are all connected
Being in a sorority is about being connected to yourself, sorority sisters, Panhellenic sisters and the university. These connections often mirror what is like to be in the real world. There are meetings and events and responsibilities to manage in a sorority and in adult life. Women will learn how to see themselves as a part of a bigger force. Women will learn to see how people are connected in this world. There are many stories of people going in for a job interview and being interviewed by someone in their sorority. Just recently a group of DPhiE sisters were in Disney for their convention and they were taking a picture in their letters, a woman stopped them to share how she was a DPhiE at her school and explained how she was able to reconnect through facebook. It’s moments like that which solidifying being in a sorority is all about connections.

Being in a sorority is a personal decision people can take and it’s not for everyone. As a lifelong member of a sorority, I continue to find value in wearing my letters. As a therapist, I work with teenagers and help them to explore ways to develop who they are. For me, being in a sorority helped define who I became and for that I am forever grateful. Interested in finding out more about sororities, the National Panhellenic Conference has information for you to explore.

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Amanda Patterson, LMHC, CAP decided to become a therapist while attending Nova Southeastern University. She saw the need to help people achieve the life they wanted to live, while creating a life of her own. She completed her master’s in Mental Health Counseling and started a career in the juvenile justice arena. Since then, she has started a private practice in Pembroke Pines Florida, specializing in depression, anxiety relationship issues, and substance abuse. Amanda is a believer in holistic treatment and she practices veganism, meditation and yoga in her life. Find out more about her practice here. For a free 15-minute consultation, call or text Amanda at 954-258-8845 or email her at amanda@amandapattersonlmhc.com.