Being intimate with your partner is about having a partner who is willing to be intimate with you. So before you go looking for solutions on how to find intimacy in your relationship, ask yourself this: “Is my partner willing to be intimate with me?”. If the answer is yes, then by all means proceed with the research, effort and time it will take to increase intimacy in your relationship. If the answer is no, then it’s important to take a look at why you stay and what options you have in your relationship. 

So, your spouse wants to become more intimate in your relationship and now you’ve got to figure out what to do? Why not work with your spouse to come up with ideas on how to do it together? Write out a list of things you would do together if time, money, jobs, children or any of those other intimacy killers didn’t get in the way. While you may not be able to do everything or anything on your list, it will be a jump off point. If you and your significant other both say you want to sail around the world, you could start with a one night cruise. 
Communication is another key ingredient in intimacy. It is the basis for all relationships so making communication a priority will allow for chemistry and passion to happen organically. Talk to each other about you day, your fears and hopes, your desires for your relationship and anything else that comes up for you.
The most important thing in finding intimacy in your relationship is willingness on both parts. Once you have that, with time and energy, everything will fall into place.

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Amanda Patterson, LMHC, CAP decided to become a therapist while attending Nova Southeastern University. She saw the need to help people achieve the life they wanted to live, while creating a life of her own. She completed her master’s in Mental Health Counseling and started a career in the juvenile justice arena. Since then, she has started a private practice in Pembroke Pines Florida, specializing in depression, anxiety relationship issues, and substance abuse. Amanda is a believer in holistic treatment and she practices veganism, meditation and yoga in her life. Find out more about her practice here. For a free 15-minute consultation, call or text Amanda at 954-258-8845 or email her at